One arena in which this has become a reality for me is in my marital life. Self-transformation clearly has its moments of spontaneous contemplative experience in which my wife and I both realize, in an intimate, intuitive, body-grounded manner, a oneness that never ends. The granting of this experience may occur in the naked embrace of sexual intercourse. When this is so, penetration and orgasm are realized to be not simply physiological processes, but, what is more, ways of yielding over their last defense against the free fall in which there is nothing for them to hold on to except one another.
Or the contemplative experience of love’s overflowing nature is more often than not granted in times of crisis; in which one is there for the other at a tremendous cost to oneself. These and all similar moments of spontaneous contemplative experience occur in a union of their own accord as moments integral to the Serendipitous nature of love.
As a couple, committed to deep intimacy, this does not, however, leave our intimacy to chance. This is especially so, as each one experiences daily pressures and the baggage of wounded-ness that we’ve brought into relationships takes its toll on our intimacy. But, when all goes well, if we cooperate with love’s ways, we’ve come to learn to recognize and faithfully give ourselves over to those acts, which we’ve discovered by experience inherently endowed with the capacity to
awaken and deepen our love for one another. We might take long slow walks together, or sit sharing what most needs to be shared… or simply sit in a mutual silence in which each gives witness to the other of love’s ultimately unspeakable nature. We become, in short, faithful to those simple acts discovered by experience inherently endowed with the capacity to awaken, deepen, and sustain a contemplative awareness of love’s never ending ways.
This same self-transforming process observed in deep, intimate love can be observed as well in religious faith, or being in the midst of nature, art, poetry, solitude, social justice, philosophical reflection, the healing of psychological wounds, and all other arenas of fundamental human experience. Each of these arenas form the context in which we are, from time to time… provides as well its own practices in which moments of contemplative awakening evolve into an habitual contemplative awareness of the divinity of daily living.